Much as I have my own views on the matter... I want to help my friend cope with an infidelity without any prejudice...
She recently found out that her bestfriend and her husband were having an affair... when she confronted her husband, he denied that they were having an affair and told her that it was plainly for the purpose of lending them (the girl and her kids) money... when she asked the girl she admitted that it was way, way back and it had ended already... but when she started her fact-finding probe, she learned a lot more than that... her bestfriend never told her anything about the regular financial help she was getting from her husband... her husband eventually confessed everything about the affair after she gathered gazillion of intertwining stories from different individuals who apparently know about the affair but just couldn't come out because it was a very sensitive matter given that she is physically unwell... she is currently at a loss as to how to treat things fairly and justly... her bestfriend is basically her everyday buddy and her kids are like hers, that's what tears her apart...
I have a strong BIASED conviction when it comes to such things... so to be impartial, I am taking this chance to solicit as much advice as I can regarding this matter...
It is so easy to pass judgement (ehem #Iamguilty) especially when you are not a part of the story... on the other hand, it is difficult to see the light when you are the one involved... so to give a friend a hand on this matter, I am asking some hypothetical questions... please feel free to share your thoughts...
Q1: What do you when you found out that your husband is having an affair with you bestfriend?
Q2: In the case that your husband admitted everything about the affair and wants to have another chance, is it still ok that he doesn't cut ties with your bestfriend and her kids? If not, how do you ask him to do it? (#she wants him to do it voluntarily but he is "as is")
Q3: Is it still ok to be friends with the bestfriend who still comes clean and denies everything?
She recently found out that her bestfriend and her husband were having an affair... when she confronted her husband, he denied that they were having an affair and told her that it was plainly for the purpose of lending them (the girl and her kids) money... when she asked the girl she admitted that it was way, way back and it had ended already... but when she started her fact-finding probe, she learned a lot more than that... her bestfriend never told her anything about the regular financial help she was getting from her husband... her husband eventually confessed everything about the affair after she gathered gazillion of intertwining stories from different individuals who apparently know about the affair but just couldn't come out because it was a very sensitive matter given that she is physically unwell... she is currently at a loss as to how to treat things fairly and justly... her bestfriend is basically her everyday buddy and her kids are like hers, that's what tears her apart...
I have a strong BIASED conviction when it comes to such things... so to be impartial, I am taking this chance to solicit as much advice as I can regarding this matter...
It is so easy to pass judgement (ehem #Iamguilty) especially when you are not a part of the story... on the other hand, it is difficult to see the light when you are the one involved... so to give a friend a hand on this matter, I am asking some hypothetical questions... please feel free to share your thoughts...
Q1: What do you when you found out that your husband is having an affair with you bestfriend?
Q2: In the case that your husband admitted everything about the affair and wants to have another chance, is it still ok that he doesn't cut ties with your bestfriend and her kids? If not, how do you ask him to do it? (#she wants him to do it voluntarily but he is "as is")
Q3: Is it still ok to be friends with the bestfriend who still comes clean and denies everything?
