Boy meets girl... then they fall in love... get married... have kid/s... woohoo... lovelovelove...
NAH! it's not always like that...
sometimes it's mumbled jumbled hahaha... they'd have kids so they'd get married... lucky if they'd fall in love along the way but sometimes boy would meet another girl then TADAH!!! It's the end of their story... haha
Getting married is the sweetest thing of all coz it implies LOVE LOVE LOVE... it is when two people decide to be together for the rest of their lives... Being married is an awesome experience as well coz it's about LOVE, LIFE, LOVING LIFE, LIVING IN LOVE, it is when two people are enjoying being together, sharing dreams, making them come true and then when reality bites ---> staying married becomes the toughest of all... one truth about MARRIAGE: everyday is a LOVE-LIFELONG TEST that you always have to pass in order to "STAY" married... a very complicated thing to explain but actually a simple matter of "compromise" between two people...
Been married for
16?! uhm 14 years (legally), I have learned so many things... like there are times that "YOU SAY IT BEST WHEN YOU SAY NOTHING AT ALL"... people who know me can tell that keeping my mouth shut is like death waiting to happen... I can go on for days without food but without the talking NAH give it an hour then check my pulse---IT'S GONE! but guess what, wanting to keep my marriage made me sleep through the day because "TALKING MY HEART OUT" could mean my husband losing his job because his focus is on me and my angst... REMEMBER: it's just a matter of time/timing... I never said I won't talk about it... I'm just saying, I finally learned to delay talking about it... so that's two birds in one stone: I learned patience and silence... things I never thought I would ever learn in this lifetime... hehe...
My husband came home with a Chocolate cake and a bottle of Coke-two things in the world that would absolutely make me SMILE no matter how bad things may get-... (darn! he knows me so well)... but since I made it through the day without saying a word, I kind of felt challenged to keep it that way longer... then he went crazy and told me
"GAGAWIN KO ANG LAHAT NG GUSTO MO MAGSALITA KA LANG PARANG AWA MO NA"---
nuninuninuninu (I was tempted to say I wanted a bag or a pair of shoes---coz that's how petty naman my angst was about---but you know, being married to someone you truly love makes you feel strange to ask for things you don't really need/want-hmmm may valentine's day naman eh hehe) besides, I only wanted his time (which is actually more precious than those bags and much more costly to ask of him)... true enough, he gave me what I wanted---HIS TIME... he said "babaw" things I wanted to hear...
SOLB!!! but most of all, it's the keeping quiet the whole day then somewhat making him frantic with worry that sort of made me "awwww, he loves me talaga" kilig and really made my day, there was this sense of accomplishment on my part... I can't remove the smile on my face for a job well done (keeping mum, that is)... I wish he could just read my mind... it felt good to hear him do all the talking... hah! (another thing about love -in general- you cannot keep that heavy feeling in your heart for a long time... matagal na ang one hour especially when you let it out agad-kaya nga ako si LET IT OUT AGAD QUEEN EH... on the contrary, that's what I learned today, it also goes off naturally when you keep quiet... you don't feel mad anymore even without the "I'M SORRY YOU GOT MAD-IT'S ALL MY FAULT-I WON'T DO IT AGAIN-PROMISE" dialogue...)
Now, I can say that love can really teach an old dog some new tricks... it's never too late...
